Tell us about yourself
Christian. Educator. Writer. Singer. Fashionista (on a budget;)
My mission with www.MyNaturalReality.com to 1-give business owners exposure to a new audience and 2-encourage my readers through stories of perseverance from those I meet on my journey with my venture (the website:). My HAIRspiration and STYLEspiration sections give others ideas they may not have considered. I started my website in November 2011. I have been a contributing writer for magazines since 2009, so I decided to step out on faith and do something by myself.
Describe your transitioning process
I had my last relaxer in either May or June of 2010. I transitioned with roller sets and Marley-hair twists. I thought I could hang in there with transitioning longer than I did, but after six months, I grew tired of the two textures. And I wanted to get into my natural kinks. I was devastated for at least 15 minutes. I cried in the bathroom because I looked like a boy. So I called a homegirl on the phone to whine. She told me to suck it up, get my gel, twist my hair, and go to bed! So I got over that fairly quick. I still never loved my TWA stage because I was unaccustomed to seeing myself with such short hair, but it went by fast.
What reactions did you get from others?
Everyone was supportive. My mom, grandmother, and a host of aunts have been natural off and on since the 90s. They’ve all worn fades, afros, or extensions most of my life. So while they were surprised I cut my long hair and stopped relaxing, they were so used to me trying new styles that it was no big deal. Many of my friends happen to be natural, so again, it wasn’t a big deal. It was those I work with and students I teach who gave a side eye to my new look. But eventually they were back to complimenting my hairstyles.
What has been your biggest hair challenge?
If I had to put a number to my hair, I’d say its a mix of 4a and 4b. The crown of my head and nape of my neck are the coiliest sections. My bang area is so disrespectful (lol)…for some reason it’s almost straight. It has very little curl pattern; it’s just thick and kinky. So wash n go’s never work for me for this reason. When I have tried them, I tend to pin the front part back. My hair does best with twists and braids. So I just have to know what works best with my hair. We have to realize that everything that works for one won’t necessarily work for another.
What is your regimen?
I don’t have a set regimen. I just keep my scalp clean with a shampoo wash or cowash every 7-10 days and I put little product in my hair between washes. I might oil my scalp and spritz a little water on my hair and maybe add a leave in or moisturizer to it, but I don’t do much else between washes. I’m focusing on coloring my hair less and wearing more twisted styles (whether loose or pinned up). I’ve been coloring my own hair since 7th grade, so it’s more than just a habit…it’s a way of life! Real talk! But I know my hair was being damaged because of that and wearing a ‘fro too much. I also don’t like to retwist or braid at night, so I just don’t. That’s not always good for your hair and I get those annoying knots on the ends but I just cut them and move on with my day! As far as my rebellion in regards to spending an hour twisting or braiding every night…my hair is just too thick for that! I can’t use my precious time in that way. So I just accept that my hair will look different as the days go on. I do sleep in a silk or satin scarf, bonnet, or use the same material pillowcase.
What are your favorite products?
Favorite products? That’s a loaded question. One: I’ve always been a product junky…even with relaxed hair. So that didn’t start with the natural tresses. Two: Rarely am I loyal to any one product. I guess I can share what I’ve used the most in recent months. For shampoos, I like my rhassoul and bentonite clay shampoo bar from http://LACEnatural.com and really love Ouidad’s cowash (I received it as a vlogger for http://NaturallyCurly.com, but that product is way to expensive for me to repurchase at this time). Condtioners I’m diggin’ right now are Motions Naturally You Deep Conditioning Masque and Miss Jessie’s Sweetback Treatment. I have several lightweight leave-in conditioners that I like too. Check my YouTube for those! To twist/braid, I honestly have no favorite product. I have much to choose from so I just try not to waste my products! I switch pretty much every wash day.
What is your favorite hairstyle?
I love twist outs! No two twist outs are created equal. Sometimes my hair looks coilier than the time before or maybe it’s chunkier. This also alters the length of my styles. Shrinkage is a dreadful word to some, but I try not to trip off of it. I just work with it and accept it as another style. So if I twist on wet hair, it’s going to be shorter than letting it dry in the t-shirt for a while after washing.
What is the best thing about the natural hair lifestyle?
Versatility!!! I love to be able to create styles I couldn’t do with relaxed hair. I used to do rod and straw sets on a regular basis. While I don’t do either but once or twice a year, I can get coily ends by twirling my strands around my finger and that big hair look you get with roller sets is similar to what I can do with twist and braid outs! I also absolutely love twists. I always thought they were cute and they were the main style I used to want to try before I was natural.
What advice can you give to other women transitioning to natural?
Be yourself. Follow your own path. Embrace what God has blessed you with because He created it especially for you.
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